SICK WITH UMNO WANITA CHIEF AND BN, SHAFIE TELLS MALAYS AND BUMIPUTERAS VOTE WTH YOURCONSCIENCE

CONSCIENCE IS OFTEN DESCRIBED AS LEADING TO FEELINGS OF REMORSE WHEN A HUMAN DOES THINGS THAT GO AGAINST HIS/HER MORAL .

A burdened conscience is a rotten thing and life can be brutal until you take arms against it. The good news is that the need to clear your conscience implies its existence, meaning you’re not an uncaring sociopath. In fact, you’re a decent guy who’s seen better days since slipping up in the recent past. Welcome to the human race.

To clear your conscience is no easy task, but doing so is critical since it can grind stains into your daily activities and soil your hopes of getting a good nights’ sleep. Don’t give that guilt or shame anymore opportunities to ruin you; it’s not worth it. In fact, it’s time to take your conscience to the cleaners.

What follows are four steps to clear you conscience, a process aimed at relieving you of this pointless liability. These steps assume you’ve either dealt with the repercussions of your actions as they affect others, or you’ve chosen not to do so. Sometimes, discretion is the better part of valor — or so Shakespeare would have us believe — and since the bard was a master of the troubled inner voice, it’s only fitting that we let him tag along in this process of clearing your conscience.

step 1

Isolate what’s nagging at you

The first step to clear your conscience is to isolate what’s nagging you. Sometimes it’s hard to admit to ourselves exactly what eats at us. As a result, it floats around our minds like a cloud of poison gas in a dream state, growing more ominous each time we try to avoid it. Use honest language to confront this cloud, framing it in stark, uncorrupted terms so you can isolate its precise nature:

“I spent all evening with the one woman my girlfriend hates more than anyone else… And I enjoyed it.”

“I blew off my parents last night so I could get high.”

In Shakespeare’s King Richard III, it takes the king until the last act to confront his conscience, or at least until his conscience confronts him. He dreams that all the people he killed on his way to becoming king return, one at a time, and tell him he’ll die in battle the next day. He wakes up and shouts: “O coward conscience, how dost thou afflict me!” By then, it’s too late. Had he isolated his demons, he could have had a good nights’ sleep and been well-rested when he faced the Earl of Richmond on the battlefield. Instead, he not only lost his crown, but Richard lost his life.

step 2

Unburden yourself through purging

This second step to clear your conscience is important. Using the sharp, isolated language from step one, purge it by telling a confidant, confessing to a priest or a psychologist, writing it into a journal, or simply writing it onto a piece of paper and then destroying it. This is, in effect, ”getting it out of your system,” and is the one and only time to wear your burden so boldly on your sleeve. Relieve yourself of a measure of that grief or guilt you’re carrying around.

But take caution where you do your purging. In Romeo and Juliet, Juliet chose to unburden her illicit love to her busybody nurse, who hustled off to tell Romeo like a 16th century gossip whore… And you know how all that worked out. In Hamlet, King Claudius purges his conscience about killing Hamlet’s father through prayer, but he makes the mistake of praying out loud within earshot of Hamlet.

Your purge can be packed with sound and fury but it should, on the spot, come to nothing more than dust.

 
What a beautiful sight 

now you watch our wanita political theatre

I would not be worth my salt as a minister and leader of 1.3 million members if I am weak and succumb to this type political theatre orchestrated by the Opposition,” Shahrizat told reporters

Under pressure, Shahrizat resorted to the farcical and the crude

old in no uncertain terms by the former Umno Wanita chief Rafidah Aziz to “damn it” and get out, and before that by former premier Mahathir Mohamad to “go before she is chased out”, and just a day ago by deputy Wanita chief Kamilia Ibrahim to not be a burden to Umno, it was tough for the shell-shocked Shahrizat to put on a brave face.

Forgetting her dignity, she resorted to the farcical and sad to say, the ‘bitchy’ streak in her finally overcame the ‘gracious’. She lashed out at Rafizi for blowing the whistle on her family’s alleged misappropriation of public money in the RM250mil NFC cattle breeding project.

Shahrizat, who is also the Women’s minister, went so far as to call him a sissy for being so watchful on the NFC scandal, offering to send him her wing’s red-and-white ‘baju kurung’ uniform.

“He will look good in red and white as he’s a little jambu (effete). Wanita Umno will pack the red and white garments and send them to my stalker,” Malaysian Insider reported Shahrizat as saying on Sunday.

“Because I think this particular person aspires to be Wanita Umno chief, maybe because he’s a wannabe leader (but) his party doesn’t have many members. Wanita Umno has 1.3 million members so he can feel the strength.”

Women in 40s have better sex lives



THIS WOMAN IS A COW  WILL  RAFIZI RAMLI  MILK HER DRY

“I am tired of smiling, after this…” Shahrizat threatened jokingly, rolling up her sleeves to cheering supporters before adding “and I have not even shifted my sarong yet”

 Wanita Umno chief Datuk Seri Shahrizat Abdul Jalil today said she will remove her sarong let him peep to  furtively observes how naked am I and sexually active for his own gratification.

 

Habibah said

“Or maybe, this former Perak Mentri Besar has feelings for Kak Ijat. After all, she is the Malaysian Aishwarya Rai,” Habibah said, referring to the famous Bollywood star


Inside her boudoir: Adriana Lima was seen getting ready for a hot date as she slipped on some suspenders in her first Super Bowl commercial for Teleflora

Showing some front: The 30-year-old was seen wearing a plunging black dress as she spoke to men saying: 'Give and you shall receive'

CAN A MUSLIM WIFE DEMAND HER SEXUAL INTIMACY, SEXUAL DESIRES FROM HER HUSBAND?

Why are arab/muslim men so inhibited in their sexual relations with their wives? I am an American woman married to a Tunisian. I, along with several of my husbands friends wives have the same issue with our sexual relationships. Our men are selfish lovers and frankly have no clue how to please a woman, nor do they try.

Is this cultural because they are taught sex is dirty. And why are they so fast to be done?

QUESTION:

I have some questions about rights to sexual intimacy (all related questions):

1) If a wife has to always fulfill her husband’s sexual desires even when she doesn’t want to, does this mean that he has to fulfill her desires when he doesn’t want to, as well? Can a wife “demand” sex as husbands can?

2) Is it sinful for a husband to refuse his wife? If refusing a husband can lead him to other sin, doesn’t refusing a wife lead HER to sin, as well?

3) What constitutes a “valid” reason for refusing intimacy? For example, even though husbands can enjoy their wives while they’re menstruating by putting a garment over their privates, does she have to engage in intimacy if she is having slight cramps, not even a “valid” sickness?

4) Shouldn’t the husband just respect that his wife is simply “not in the mood”? Wouldn’t he enjoy it more if she IS in the mood, or is he like an animal that needs his desires fulfilled ASAP?

Please help me as I have trouble coming to terms with this seemingly “unfair” concept, even when the couple is mutually respectful and communicative. If a sister could answer, that would be appreciated. May Allah reward you best.

ANSWER:

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful

In the Name of Allah.

Praise be to Allah.

May Allah’s peace and blessings shower upon our beloved Messenger.

Dear Sister,

I pray this message finds you in good health and spirits.

You have raised some very important points:

1) If a wife has to always fulfill her husband’s sexual desires even when she doesn’t want to, does this mean that he has to fulfill her desires when he doesn’t want to, as well? Can a wife “demand” sex as husbands can?

Answer:

The husband is obligated to keep his wife chaste. While scholars have distinguished between a man’s right to “demand” sex and a woman’s right to “request” sex, it is nonetheless a man’s religous duty to keep his wife sexually satisfied. A woman may not have an explicit legal right to demand sex in the same fashion as a man; however, this distinction merely accounts for the inherent temperamental, physical, and emotional differences between the sexes. Ustadha Hedaya Hartford, in her excellent guide to Islamic marriage, states that both Hanafi and Shafi’i scholars hold that a man should make love to his wife at least every four nights. [Hedaya Hartford, Islamic Marriage: Starting Off On the Right Foot. Beirut and Damascus: Dar al-Fikr, 2000]

2) Is it sinful for a husband to refuse his wife? If refusing a husband can lead him to other sin, doesn”t refusing a wife lead HER to sin, as well?

Answer:

Yes, it is sinful for a man to consistently refuse his wife. Note the word “consistently.” It is a given that sometimes one spouse or the other won’t be in the mood. However, as Ustadha Hedaya says, sex should never be used as a weapon. There is great blessing in satisfying your spouse, even if you don’t feel like it. A woman who is not sexually satisfied in her marriage may be led to sin. This is a possibility for both spouses if they are not receiving their rights. Scholars emphasize that a man must keep his wife chaste. How can he do this if he refuses her?

3) What constitutes a “valid” reason for refusing intimacy? For example, even though husbands can enjoy their wives while they”re menstruating by putting a garment over their privates, does she have to engage in intimacy if she is having slight cramps, not even a “valid” sickness?

Answer:

Valid reasons include menstruation, postpartum bleeding, illness, exhaustion, and physical inability. Note that a woman cannot have sex while menstruating or experiencing postnatal bleeding. However, if she simply doesn’t feel up to it, then the best thing to do is to explain to her husband how she feels. Perhaps there are other ways she can explore to satisfy him. Furthermore, she should let him know that when she feels better, she looks forward to having intercourse. This will create a sense of anticipation and let him know that she loves him.

4) Shouldn’t the husband just respect that his wife is simply “not in the mood?”Wouldn’t he enjoy it more if she IS in the mood, or is he like an animal that needs his desires fulfilled ASAP?

Answer:

Yes, both spouses need to understand that sometimes one or the other won’t be in the mood. However, as I stated before, this should not become a habit. It is very easy to keep putting off your husband, but think of the long term. It may be good to sit down and count how often you put him off. It may be more than you think. Also worth exploring: why aren’t you in the mood? Is there s0mething he could do differently? How often do you two just sit and enjoy each other’s company? Talking, laughing, cuddling, and kissing are things couples should do on a regular basis, not just when they have sex. These little ways of showing love really do foster a strong relationship and prepare the couple for further intimacy.

Another suggestion is to look at your husband’s timing. Do you have children? Do you work or go to school? Perhaps your husband is approaching you after you’ve had a long day. There are things you can do to alleviate this and create a positive, loving environment where BOTH of you crave intimacy.

Please read these articles on SunniPath. They are of benefit.

*** Turning Sex Into Sadaqa ***www.sunnipath.com/resources/Questions/qa00000608.aspx

*** Bedroom: If wife is tired. ***

May Allah bless you and your husband to find a solution that is mutually beneficial.

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