For it is these little lies and betrayals that make a big difference to one’s credibility and to the quality of a relationship, whether personal or professional. The bigger lies that have the potential of blowing up in the face could remain unknown and hidden forever, thus not really causing any harm. The smaller lies that you unthinkingly and carelessly blurt out, not just get caught all the time, but also lay the foundation of how dependable or trustworthy a person or relationship is!
DOWRY IN ISLAM?
PERGERAKAN BELlA INDIAMUSLIM MALAYSIA (GEPIMA)
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DOWRY TORTURE TAINT MOHD BIN KATHER ALL (GEPIMA)
24-YEAR OLD SITI NAZRIN HAD FILED A COMPLAINT AGAINST HER IN-LAW
DOWRY IN ISLAM?!PERGERAKAN BELLA INDIAMUSLIM MALAYSIA (GEPIMA)* MOHD BIN KATHER ALL012-3136250 / 03-40417445DOWRY TORTURE TAINT MOHD BIN KATHER ALL (GEPIMA)24-YEAR OLD SITI NAZRIN HAD FILED A COMPLAINT AGAINST HER IN-LAW
24-year old Siti Nazrin binte Mohd Iqbal had filed a complaint against her in-lawMohd BIN Katir Sultan for torturing her for more dowry,her father has given 800gms of gold valued at RM95,OOO. Mental and physical torture by Mohd bin Katir Sultan for more dowry of RM100,000 in cash to buy a bunglow in Taman Rawther.this poor girl had SPM BUT MOHD SON HAD ONLY primary six allegedly assaulted with hot iron,forced her to sleep in the storeroom and was fed with left over food.a withness tipped her father how she was forced to housework for the family of 12 people during the time she was pregnant.they tortured her day one she got in to theirr house she was divorced by her husband
MOHD BIN KATIR SULTAN is the one who ended the relationship.He always remind me if i complain to my parents he will end our relationship me one day to announce, “It’s over.”ask his son , I got a piece of mail, which my husband had signed with the three words “Talaq, talaq, talaq,” meaning “I divorce you, I divorce you, I divorce you.” According to traditional interpretation, a Muslim man has to simply utter this word three times to divorce his wifeWhile these situations are becoming in Malaysia among INDIANMUSLIMS, they still occur often enough to warrant some discussion on them. There are those families who will use the bride’s dowry as their own. Often in these situations, the bride’s dowry will be recycled for the groom’s sisters’ dowry. Sometimes, the groom’s family uses the bride’s dowry entirely for their own means and the bride does not benefit from it all. There have been horrible, true stories of the groom’s family agreeing to one dowry and after the bride is married (and I might add, no longer a virgin) demanding more from the bride’s parents. Threats of divorce are often used to entice the bride’s parents to give more dowry. In a country where shame is brought down on the divorcee, parents of the bride will do whatever they can to save their daughters this shame. Occasionally, the threat of physical violence is used. There really is no way these type situations can end happily. Even if the bride’s parents are able to scrape together more dowry, they will not be able to continue doing so and in the end the bride is either sent home in shame or sometimes killed in an “accident”.
Often people do not realize the dowry system has repercussions in many different areas other than the obvious horrible one stated above. Given the fact that a girl’s parents must provide a substantial dowry plus try to give her a college education or some form of formal education today, it is not surprising that the number of girl abortions are extremely high in India. Interestingly, India theoretically is a culture which places high value on females. The females of a family are the life-blood, the pride and honor of that family. It is a very contradictory situation to see such importance placed on females and then to see the abortion rates of female babies sky high. Most college-educated Indians I have spoken to, both male and female, stand in firm objection to the dowry system and see that the twisted form it has taken is responsible for the degradation of women. In these families, girl children are just as prized as boy children and parents are teaching their daughters of their own worth as a human being.
Ever since their mad dash out of Egypt bound for the Promised Land, Jews have been on the move — and they continue to be, far more than any other religious group, according to a new study.One in four of the world’s Jews has migrated from one country to another, compared to 5 percent of Christians and 4 percent of Muslims who have left their native lands.The findings are part of a comprehensive new study on religion and global migration, released Thursday (March 8) by the Pew Forum on Religion & Public Life, which tracked the journeys of the world’s 214 million migrants.“The world Jewish community is consolidating,” said Jonathan Sarna, a professor of American Jewish history at Brandeis University who did not work on the study. “Jews are abandoning Third World countries where historically they had been persecuted and moving to large and generally free First World countries.”No other major religious group approached the 25 percent migration rate of the Jews, said Phillip Connor, the senior researcher on the study. On average, he said, only 3 percent of the world’s population migrates. What may be surprising to people, Connor said, is that overwhelmingly “people do stay put.”As for the Jews, Sarna said, the vast majority of world Jewry lives in one of two countries. Of the 13.3 million Jews worldwide, 43 percent live in Israel and 39 percent live in the United States.A major driver of Jewish migration: the establishment of Israel in 1948 and continued migration to that country. Sarna also noted the exodus of hundreds of thousands of Jews from the former Soviet Union for destinations in Israel, the U.S. and elsewhere.A positive spin on Jewish migratory trends is that Jews, so often persecuted in their homelands, are safer in their new countries.But “what we’re losing is one of the great themes of Jewish history,” said Sarna, referring to the collapse of Jewish communities in the Middle East, North Africa and other lands where they had lived for millennia.Though Jews claim the most dramatic migration rates, their small numbers mean that the vast majority of migrants belong to other religious groups. Christians make up nearly half of all international migrants (49 percent) according to the study, though they make up a third of the world’s population. Of all Christians alive today, 106 million have switched countries, and their top destination is the United States.Of the 43 million foreign-born people living in the United States in 2010, an estimated 74 percent are Christian, according to the study’s authors, who combed census data and other studies to compile their findings. Where are these immigrants coming from?Mexico, a largely Catholic country, is the biggest “donor” nation of Christians to the U.S., with 12 million Mexican immigrants — both documented and undocumented — making their home north of the border.As for other trends in migration to the United States, this nation is:— The No. 1 destination for Buddhists. About 1.7 million foreign-born Buddhists live in the United States, many of them from Vietnam The top stop for immigrants with no religion, about 4.4 million people, many of who come from China.— Second after India for its number of Hindu migrants, who number 1.3 million in the U.S.
Among Muslims, the U.S. ranks seventh as a destination, after Saudi Arabia, Russia, Germany, France, Jordan and Pakistan. There are about 2 million Muslim immigrants now living in United States, according to the study.
By Kaleem Kawaja
The basis of an equitable democracy is that the various communities — ethnic and relegious — get representation in the political decision making process. In a non-equitable democracy like India where intimidation and influence peddling on the basis of religious and ethnic origin often happens and is compounded by the fact that there are over a dozen major linguistic and ethnic communities, a multiplicity of castes and over half a dozen relegious communities, it is difficult to build an equitable, enlightened and secular democracy.
More than any other community the Muslims who are at least 15% of the population and who have significant concentration in about half a dozen states have suffered much lack of representation in the political process. Even as the lower caste HIndu OBC and Hindu Dalit communities formed successfull parties and ruled in north India, Muslims with sizeable population in several states remained as the vote bank of other parties who promised them only protection from gory large scale violence. But these parties did nothing more for Muslims and as in the last twenty years the globalization of India’s economy brought jobs and better standards of living to other erstwhile backward communities, Muslims remained in the lowest socio-economic basket of the nation. The Scahar Committee’s well documented 2007 report laid it bare for all to see.
Year after year the Muslim voters remained the vote banks of otherwise secular parties and remained afraid of demanding equitable development for their community. But starting in 2010 the Muslim voters in the four north Indian states of Assam, West Bengal, Bihar, Uttar Pradesh where about 47% of the Muslims of India live, adopted a pattern of strategic voting. In each state depending on the situation, they decided which party was likely to give them equitable treatment and voted for it. Other than BJP that is a self- pronounced anti-Muslim party they are willing to look at all parties.
Thus, secular parties like Congress, Communists, Samajwadi party, Bahujan Samaj Party that had made a habit of loudly proclaining their Muslim-friendly credentials have been put to tests by Muslim voters. Muslim voters have decided that neither any of them is their messiah nor enemy; they each had to prove what they are for Muslims. The election results in these four states in the last 18 months of 2010-2012 are an eye opener. Let’s see the election results:
Assam – 31% Muslim population – 32 MLAs in the state Assembly of 126 or 25% representation
Bihar – 15% Muslim population – 19 MLAs in the state Assembly of 203 or 10% representation
West Bengal – 25% Muslim population – 59 MLAs in the state Assembly of 294 or 20%
Uttar Pradesh – 18% of Muslim population – 69 MLAs in the Assembly of 402 or 17% representation
This proportion of Muslim MLAs in various states is in proportion to their population in those states. And that is fair. Muslims of India are not trying to demand excessive representation either in politics or in socioeconomic arena. Just their fair share which has been denied to them in the last 65 years. Let us hope that in the 2014 parliament elections the number of Muslim MPs in Lok Sabha will rise to about 70 to 75, about 15% – their proportion in the population.
In Assam Muslims were not reluctant to vote for Congress, but in UP they favoured a better choice in SP. In West Bengal after decades of promises only from the Communists Muslims were willing to give a chance to Trinamool Congress. In Bihar after long years of no development from Laloo’s RJD they took a risk with Nitish Kumar’s JD. Muslims’ voting pattern in four major states over the last 18 months shows that they are not averse to any party (except BJP) but in each case they make strategic decisions as to which party to vote for.
In each of these states the various secular parties that earlier gave tickets to only very few Muslim candidates despite their significant numbers have now started giving their tickets to many more Muslims and many more of them are now winning. Muslims want their community represented by their own people; they are not willing to accept the dictum that a secular Hindu is a good enough representative of Muslims. Because, they learned the hard way that even for secular Hindus their own community came first and Muslims were only second priority.
The problem of just a few years ago when many Muslim candidates and one Hindu candidate contested for the same seat reulting in the Hindu candidate winning, largely did not happen in the above cited election. The reason being that Muslim voters are now not willing to vote for a non-viable candidate just because he/she is a Muslim. In all of these states the previously well entrecnhed parties lost out since Muslim voters chose to assert themselves strategically. A party claiming decades of secular credentials but very little help in the socio-economic development of the Muslims was relegated to a lower preference.
However in all of these states it remains to be seen if this larger number of Muslim MLAs will actually result in these MLAs emphasizing with the bosses of their parties that they give equitable attention to socioeconomic development in Muslim communities at par with development in other communities.
Major parties like Congress that claim to be secular and equitable need to rethink their basic operating methods. They need to turn much more honest and sensitive to the critical needs of Muslims, not just propaganda or playing communal promises. It will be their actual record on ground not grandiose promises from scions of big political families.
If Muslims continue to play such strategic electoral politics as they have demonstrated in the last 18 months, they have nothing to fear from BJP. They can force BJP to change its basic thinking and policies or get reduced to a fringe party that they used to be.
[Kaleem Kawaja is a community activist based at Washington DC. He can be reached on: firstname.lastname@example.org]