YAH ALLAH SAVE US FROM THIS EVIL POLITICANS you are a disgrace to your Islam WHY ARE YOU TRYING TO CON YOUR OWN PEOPLE AND WAITING TO BE CONNED BY BARISAN related article https://muslimmalaysia786.wordpress.com/2011/04/29/clarion-call-to-indian-muslim-woman-enough-is-enough-the-need-to-return-the-quranic-paradigm-for-indian
Violence against women is not just a culture crime, but a global crime. It is sad the perps behind this crime likely attempted to portray it as a hate crime to throw off suspicion, but it is not the first time this has happened and many perps behind a violent crime against women have tried to raise suspicion against others so they would not be suspected. This is not a cultural or racial issue and shame on the media and people immediately reacted as if it is. Just look at crimes against in the US where the husband attempted to form an alibi when he was guilty of killing his wife. “I went camping in the middle of a snowstorm without my wife when she disappeared from my home”, “I went fishing by myself on Christmas Day when my wife disappeared from my home”, “my wife had a racial hate letter left for her when she was bludgeoned to death”. If you separated violence against women to violence against women that happened in their own home you will see the percentage of the crime being much higher that the violence was committed by a family member. The family history and the facts of the case make it 99.9% likely the family was involved in this. Shame on those you lack the reason to figure this out. It is a classic case that the police were suspicious of at the beginning. If you want real justice for Shaima then you will continue to ask for justice in light of new evidence instead of looking for a new case to play the race card and now abandoning her. Shame on all those that have. You only prove you have no real respect for this woman or concern for real crime against women. You are the same people who cry foul for Palestinian children but do not give a damn about children around the world who suffer more, have a greater chance of becoming a victim of crime, and a greater chance of starving to death. Have you not looked at the real world around you? So man people do not give a damn about dying children unless it supports their cause even though there are more dying and starving children in other countries. Shame on all of you.
As the facts about the Shaima Alawadi murder case continue to trickle in, it appears more and more that she was the victim of family violence, rather than a hate crime. As somebody who works to prevent family violence at Project Sakinah, this does not come as a surprise to me—nor was it an unexpected turn of events to many of us in the domestic violence/family violence community. Of all the women killed in America in 2007, 64% of them died at the hands of a family member or an intimate partner. While it is possible that this might be matricide, which isexceedingly rare (85% of children who murder one or more of their parents are male), family violence is not.
Although I would rather the Muslim community had been a bit more cautious before rushing to judge the Alawadi case as a hate crime, the reason so many Muslims and non-Muslims hastily attributed the murder to Islamophobia is that we all recognize that anti-Islamic rhetoric in America today is vociferous enough to lead to this kind of tragedy. Alawaidy’s murder followed at the heels of the tragic death of Trayvon Martin, and we began to question whether racial and religious stereotyping had gone too far.
Fear, suspicion and hatred are not the American values that I, nor anybody else I know, was brought up with. These sorts of irrational and poisonous emotions have no place in a country that was pieced together by immigrants—each one adding yet another ethnicity, religion and color to the mix. In fact, our diversity both sets us apart from the largely homogenous nations of world and gives us an edge—more innovative ideas, more creativity, more tolerance. Yet, we seem to have forgotten that; many even call into question the religion of our President, implying allegiance to Islam would compromise his loyalty to the United States. This slipping away of our core values is why I believe so many Americans—Muslims, blacks and others– rallied first around the death of Traven Martin and then Shaima Alawaidy.
If the facts do prove that Shaima Alawaidy was the victim of family violence, then this is a problem that reaches far beyond the Muslim community. Statistically speaking, family violence is affecting an American you personally know. Guaranteed. It does not matter if you’re in the top socio-economic percentile, or the bottom. It does not matter if you identify yourself as a Muslim or a Christian. It does not matter if you’re Iraqi-American or Irish-American.
One in four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
One in four college women have been the victim of rape or attempted rape.
More than five children die in the US every day from child abuse.
A report of child abuse is made every ten seconds.
And between one and two million elderly Americans have been the victims of elder abuse—(and this is a conservative estimate).
We at Project Sakinah are mobilizing the Muslim American community to stop family violence in its tracks. We believe that domestic violence is not sanctioned in Islam and we ask that whether Shaima Alawaidy was bludgeoned to death by a family member or by a hateful stranger, you will contact your senators and congress people and ask them to renew the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). Donning a hijab is one means to remember Alawaidy’s death and condemn her killer, but directly speaking with or writing to your state’s representatives is an even more effective one.
Adulterous Saudi princess granted asylum in Britain: report
AFP 20 July 2009,Adulterous Saudi princess granted asylum in Britain: report
LONDON: A Saudi princess who fell pregnant during an affair with a British man has been granted asylum here after she claimed she could face the
death penalty if she went home, a newspaper report said on Monday.
A British court granted refugee status to the young woman, who is married to a member of the Saudi royal family, after she told the judge her adultery made her liable to death by stoning in Saudi Arabia, The Independent said.
A spokeswoman for the Home Office in London refused to confirm the report, saying it did not comment on individual cases. A spokesman for the Royal Embassy of Saudi Arabia in London was unvailable.
According to the newspaper, the princess — who was granted anonymity by the court — is one of a small number of citizens of Saudi Arabia who claim asylum in Britain but whose cases are not openly acknowledged by either government.
Recognition by the British government would be viewed as criticism of human rights in Saudi Arabia, which would embarrass both sides, it said.
The princess reportedly met her English boyfriend, who is not a Muslim, during a visit to London. She became pregnant the following year and returned to Britain to have the baby in secret.
Since then her family has broken off contact with her, and she persuaded a court that if she returned home then both she and her child would be subject to capital punishment under Sharia law, namely flogging and stoning to death.
While you don’t mind going an extra mile to please your partner in bed, but often there are certain sexual demands to which you do not give
Be it male or female partners, everyone has their set of bedroom demands, which, if not satisfied by the other partner can ruin a relationship. Sometimes slightly kinky and not-so-nice sexual demands by your partner are a turn-off as they mar sexual pleasure. It’s for the partners to decide how to react to these repeated demands while having sex.
If your mate is unable to meet your sex demands, chances are high that you are going out of their comfort zone and over expecting. Here experts dole out advice on easier ways to control your sex demands so as to enjoy having sex with your partner without much of disagreement…
MEN’S SEXUAL DEMANDS
Instant undressing : Men find it very fascinating to see their girl naked. So mastering the act of undressing is a vital which men will insist on during a quickie. What irks women about this demand is the continuous pressure to undress all at once as most women prefer a long and sensual foreplay.
Meet the demand : Sex therapist Dr. Ratan Mehrotra suggests, “Men need to be a little more calm and patient and let women enter a comfort zone where they can undress sans any inhibitions. Expecting your mate to strip at once isn’t as simple as it may sound, so give her space, make her feel at ease and make it an enjoyable act. Maybe your lady is feeling shy; so turn off the lights and then tell her softly about your desire of getting a glimpse of her body.”
Wicked & Wild : It’s official that men are more sexually aggressive and they often expect their female partner to behave in a similar manner. While asking your babe to get adventurous, remember that your lady love may feel like you are behaving like a wild animal in bed.
Meet the demand : Mumbai-based sexologist Dr. Amit Agarwal states, “Demanding that your woman acts wild and wicked in bed as you expect them to be is unfair. Your female partner can’t step into a porn star’s shoes and perform wild sex moves. Try and let her do what she enjoys doing in bed instead of forcing her to do things which you want. Once she is open to trying out newer sex positions, try asking her if she wants to opt for wilder moves.”
Oral pleasure : Oral pleasure can be enjoyed only when both partners give mutual consent. And quite often, it’s an imposed act on the female partner, because not all women are happy with the idea of going down to please their men.
Meet the demand : Sexologist Dr. Pushkar Gupta opines, “When it comes to intimate moments, nothing should be forced. Rather each act should be an expression of love. In case of oral sex, it’s true that men are more eager to receive oral pleasure and women often are reluctant mainly due to hygiene issues. Men must let the woman realise that this is equally a part of their physical intimacy and he is not forcing oral sex on her. Once a woman starts taking pleasure in the act, just wait for an initiative from her side rather that asking her to indulge in an oral act every time you get intimate.”
WOMEN’S SEXUAL DEMANDS
Multiple orgasms : Most women complain that their male partners fail to give them the ultimate Big ‘O’. Thus, they start over expecting from their man and hold them responsible for perhaps failing to reach a gratifying orgasm. Men on the other hand, find it disgusting when their female partner concentrates more on her orgasm, being least bothered about his enjoyment.
Meet the demand : Dr. Agarwal explains, “Women must not act aggressive if they are not getting an easy orgasm from their male partner. There might be several reasons behind this, so instead of showing your anger and making it look like an obligation for your better half, try enjoying the act to the fullest. And once you stop posing a demand for a gratifying climax, you will not only perform the act in a better way, but the enjoyment level would soar too.”
Slow and steady moves : Women are no less ravenous when it comes to sex, but they do define their limits when it comes to performing. They prefer a man who is not too wild in his sexual behaviour. The reason why men find it tough to give in to this demand is because they indulge in sex to enjoy and get pleasure, whereas women seek more of intimacy, cuddling, snuggling, which might not sound stimulating enough for a man.
Meet the demand : Dr. Mehrotra shares, “Expecting men to perform in bed as per your terms and conditions will kill sexual passion and lead to troubles in your sexual life. Though it doesn’t mean that you start accepting whatever your partner does in bed, but being too rigid and expecting them to perform slowly always is a bad move. Women need to understand that men harbour certain sexual desires and if you start imposing your viewpoint on them, it would lead nowhere. If their acts are uncomfortable, let them know about what turns you on and build a relationship based on mutual understanding.”
Using protection : Treating sex like a duty or responsibility that has to be played out every night is not a healthy practice. Women, in general, insist a lot on using contraception and men aren’t too keen about it as it reduces their pleasure quotient. Also, the demand of using protection during every sex session is mostly driven by women’s pregnancy fears.
Meet the demand : Dr. Gupta suggests, “If you are too firm that your partner use protection during sex, explain this to him with logical reasons so that he can understand your mind space. Putting it as a demand will only make them furious; they might even refuse to perform. So follow a proper way to have your demands fulfilled by your partner, as forcing won’t help whatsoever. Moreover, there are other methods of daily contraception like oral pills, which can be easily resorted to. It’s important to build mutual understanding in this regard.”
This research article is published in the Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment and Trauma, 2007, 15 (2), 1-19.